Rejection at it's finest!!!!!!

"Rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success"

Bo Bennett

I have been rolling around the thought of rejection in my head lately. The sting. The feeling of not being worthy, not being good enough. The thought of not measuring up. I have had a major fear of rejection since the first time I was ever rejected. 10 years ago, senior year of high school I crushed hard on the new boy. I thought he was FINE which was weird he wasn't at all my time. I'm more of a tall, dark, and handsome and he was a short, light, and arrogant.  I however wanted him. Which again was out of the box because I never ever really crushed on a guy except for...the guy with the sexiest smile I have seen to date (lol, thinking about it). Anyway this new guy, we will call him Double D told my best friends cousin that I was ugly. She ran back and told me, and that was the first time I questioned myself. I had never thought of myself as anything but pretty, I thought I was great and I never really depended on any validation from anyone until that tragic day. I started to ask every male I knew if I was ugly. Every time I asked I got the stank face. They all asked me what the heck I was talking about as if I was crazy. 

I've carried around the fear of rejection for 10 years, the fear of the sting, not being good enough, not measuring up. Lately I have been dealing with rejection in many forms for the last six months work related, relationship related, family related, and even internally. After each rejection I go through the sting becomes less painful, the fear less fearful, and I begin to learn from each time I hear no, it's not going to work, I don't think that's a good idea, your not the right fit. Thinking back to that day I realized that I had never talked to this dude, I have no idea if he even knew who I was, or even if I was told the truth. Then I think about how a dude I never knew even spoke to made such a negative impression in my life. Then I realized that maybe I wasn't his type...so what. I was somebodies type.

After 10 years here is what I learned from rejection:

1. You may not be the right fit for that person, company or job but it doesn't mean that you are not a great fit for something or someone else.

2. Rejection makes you strong, pushes you to work a little harder, and allows for self reflection.

3. Everything that sounds good, and looks good may not be good to you and for you, rejection is Gods way of protecting you. You may not be able to see it instantly but it will surface one day. ( this has happened to me may times, and each time it is revealed I can't help but thank God for Grace :) )

The next time you are faced with rejection don't take it so personal, look at the grace in it and wait for the revelation. Something better is just around the corner.

 You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.

Walt Disney

Shameka