K. Michelle: Silence is Loud

 That Silence is Loud.....

K. Michelle, the R&B singer from Memphis tells her best friend that the silence is loud when she goes home at night, referring to being single and going home to an empty house. When she uttered those words I thought to myself, wow...that silence is loud. 

There are times in your life when you crave silence and you want to be alone. Times when doing nothing is just as pleasing as doing something and people are always around eager to enjoy what ever life throws your way. One day that all changes. You wake up and life has fully kicked in. Your schedule if filled to the with things you have to do instead of things you really want to do. And those friends who are always around seemed to have vanished, and when the day is done and you walk into your house that silence is  so loud it practically drives you crazy when your single.

Being single I find that the older I get the more nerve wrecking it gets to be so. When I was 25, I always thought I had three more years to get married before I start to have babies. Now at 27 the clock is ticking and the silence is starting to get super loud.

Recently, I have realized that the silence is the pressure that I have been putting on myself. Pressure to live up to a standard, to please others, but most of all to check one more thing off of my list called life. I'm not going to lie one day I will get meet him and marry him, but until then I am committed to to enjoying the blessing of being single.

The blessings I've found in being single:

1.)  Time to truly get to know who you are and what you want

2.)   Ability to put your all in your career with out fear of destroying your relationship

3.)    Time to establish the woman you want to be so that you are prepared for the man that you want

4.)   A time to get clear on what you want and need from a relationship

5.)  Time to heal any past wounds, or hurts

I'm not going to lie being single is hard some times, but don't settle just because that silence is loud.

Shameka

All you single ladies out their weigh in and tell me what you do when that silence become unbearable? How do you handle being fine, fabulous, and single?