He's Got Kids....

My last post The Best Part of Single sparked some interesting conversation between my cousin and I. We are like day and night, our lives are totally different. She's in a long term relationship has a beautiful house, two beautiful kids, the car of dreams and owns her own business and she's only 25.
I on the other hand am single, no kids, and have the opportunity to do whatever it is I dream of. Yet she craves my freedom and I crave her predictability. She spent the best of the afternoon trying to convince me that being single is better than being a relationship. She challenged my thoughts on compatibility, finances,and the inevitable change while within a relationship.

There was one question she asked me that really got me thinking.
" say, you and Mr. incredible are dating and you have developed feelings for him. In conversation he tells you that he has a kid. You never asked about it because you never saw him with a child and it seemed unlikely. What would you do?"

~It's hard for a man to choose a lady who's already got a baby even though his feelings may be strong....~Lyfe Jennings

This question threw me off. What
would I do? Do I let it go for fear of the drama associated with dating someone with a kid or do I give it chance. I went with the safe answer. I wouldn't turn him away because of the kid. Once I answered I thought about it more. Would I, could I date a guy with kids?

~That's why it's better just to wait, take love day to day and let love spread its own wings and if it flys away or if it decides to stay it won't be because of any unrealistic expectations y'all done made.~ Lyfe Jennings

After some deep thought I've come to the conclusion that no one is perfect and no relationship is perfect. Everyone comes with their own baggage, scars, wounds, issues, and problems. It may not be in the same form for example a kid, it may be physical, mental or emotional. It may not be as heavy, and it may not be noticed in the beginning but it will show up. The beauty of it is that if you find someone who will help you carry that baggage, heal those wounds, or put salve on those scars you would be a fool to turn them away because there baggage may not be as heavy or as light as yours. A person who is strong enough to help you carry your baggage will be the same person holding you up when things get hard.

~You showed me what it really felt to be loved, kissed, held, and prayed for and wanted, nurtured , guided and to be understood...~Anthony Hamilton