Monday Inspirtation: Killing Self Doubt!

For you were not given a spirit of fear, but of power, love and self-discipline

2 Timothy 1:7

It's hard! I don't know? I don't know how. I'm unsure. I may be wrong. What am I doing? These are all the phrases that roll through my brain when I am doubting myself. From my experience doubt has kept me from being bold, and having that spirit of power. It has kept me in my comfort zone, robbed me of the opportunity to stretch my wings and fly. As I sit on the edge of a major transition in my life, one that I know can make me or break me all the times that I have doubted myself scroll across the screen in my brain. It is in this specific moment in time where self doubt can cause me to stay in an unhealthy place. Self doubt told me that I was not good enough, that I did not know what I was doing, no one would listen to me, and ultimately I did not matter. Those thoughts killed my confidence and made me want to hide behind a rock many days. As I work on being Bold! I'm ready to KILL Doubt!

Here's the Plan:

1. Recognize: It's hard to kill something if you don't have it in your sights. I'm going to be checking for that little bugger and squashing it as soon as the thought enters into my head.

2. Forget what others think: One big trigger for doubt for me is what others will think of me. I want to be perfect, sweet, nice and charming, and I want others to think of me that way, so before I do anything I always think of what others will think. This hinders me from speaking my mind often for fear of being wrong. So now I say, who cares! The only way that you can learn the right answer some times is to give the wrong one.

3. Actions speak louder than words: Doubt keeps me from doing loads of things. I usually remain in a cycle of should I or should I not. Well no more of that. It's time to step out on faith. I'm ready to see where faith leads me.

Something tells me that pushing doubt out of the way could lead me right to my dreams!!!!!

Leave a comment and let me know what you think about this post.

I hope you enjoy,

Shameka

I don't want to be skinny, just healthy!

taken from the internet

I weigh XXX, yep it has gotten that bad. Before I go on let me clarify that I have never been one of the people who can say they weighed in the double digits in their teenage years, or in the lower hundreds. I have always been a curvy girl. When I was toddler my mom had to buy me husky pants from the boy section because my butt and thighs were just that juicy. As I got older I struggled with being the biggest girl in my class, not being able to fit the clothes in the girls section, and finally having a body that men twice my age lusted after which garnered unwanted attention from men. From these experiences that affected me all different ways I learned some very conflicting lessons that affects me in my adulthood.

1. I would never be as good as the other girls.
2. I can't look like the other girls
3. Men are only interested in one thing when it comes to men.



These three things I learned turned into a complex that has allowed me to accept my current weight at XXX. My weight has turned into an excuse not to really go after what I want, because I don't measure up. Because I have told myself this for years each time I start a new weight loss program I unconsciously sabotage myself. Although I want to lose the weight badly I am scared of the girl who is locked inside of me waiting to have her chance in this world. I desperately want to to fit in a size XX. I want to be able to shop in boutiques, and look cute in just about anything, but most of all I want to be healthy. If I don't lose anything I want to know that I have made the choices that will prepare my body to help me reach my dreams. To help others you must help yourself first. How can I encourage you to be you best and have everything you want if I am not doing the same. I dare not be a hypocrite.

As I get older the more I see the repercussions of an unhealthy lifestyle. It is heart breaking when those excuses add up and you realize  that you can't change the heart disease, or diabetes that you have made the choice to have. So as I write this post I am making the choice to lead a healthy life style. I will no longer focus on the 10 pounds I need to loose but to adopt a healthy routine that I can follow that result in the healthiest life. I refuse to wake up one day with no choice. I choose healthy.

Here is my plan:

Eat breakfast, I never constantly eat breakfast. I always make an excuse that I don't have the time. Breakfast is very important in having a healthy lifestyle. It gives your body the energy to make it through the first part of the day. It also wakes up metabolism, and keeps it burning throughout the day.

Fall in love with H20, I have never been a water drinker. Sometimes I will make water my last option when I am thirsty. Now water will be the first choice. I am going to have to work myself up to eight glass a day.

Get moving, now I just go to work and come home. Once I'm home I flop down in my bed with the remote in my hand. What a bad habit. My energy level is down,while my stress level is extremely high which is even more of a reason to get moving.

After I get these three things under my belt I plan to add to the list so stay tuned. I will be also regularly updating you on my health journey and hope that you will join me no matter if you are over weight or not.

Tell me what you do to stay healthy?

Shameka

Do you know what you deserve?

As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence actually liberates others.

Marianne Williamson 

 

As you make your way to that place that you crave to be you may encounter opportunities that seem to good to be true, or just may seem out of your league. What do you do in those instances? Do you shrink back and let someone else have it because they may seem a little bit more qualified than you? Do you tell yourself that you can't do it for fear of failure?Well if you do than you have a little work to do before you can even utter the word Bold.

What is your worth? What do you deserve? If you can not answer these questions than there is not way you can ask for what you want. You may not even know what you want. Knowing your self worth , makes you important, It shows that you love yourself no matter what others have to say, or think. Loving yourself is the basis for being Bold. That's the only way you will be able to stand up for yourself.

Instead of shrinking to fit into the box the expectations of other put you in , stand up tall and give it all you have. Practice being worthy by letting your light shine. Refuse to be mediocre. Stand out!

Just something to think about.

Shameka


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Why Be Bold?

Freedom Lies In Being Bold

Robert Frost

In Feburary I left behind excuses, and learned to face opposition head on, so why not know be bold? Before you can be bold, you have to know what it Adventourous, brave, couragous,sponatenous,

Here are five reasons you should be bold:

1. It makes your life exciting. You don't have to go over board, but you can do something you have never done. Some people find themselves being bold in certain areas of their lives such as with fashion while rather conservative in others. Step outside of your comfort zone, one step at a time.

2. You get what you what want. Instead of taking the back seat, take the front.

3. Strive to be a bit different.Being bold is all about pushing the status quo. People dont get noticed for being like everyone else. Be uniquely you.

4. Express who you really are. Indulge in the things that you really love, just because you love them.

5. Create the life that you want. Don't watch life pass you by! Live it, why not be bold.

Let me know how you like to be bold. One of my favorite way is to wear a bright bright lip color just because I like the color.

Invite a friend to read and follow SheMogul!

Shameka

Saying Goodbye to Excuses!

Since I discovered my first Seventeen Magazine 13 years ago I was hooked. I loved the pops of color on the pages, and the opportunity to read about the different lives of girls around the world. Laying on my bed for that hour reading and re-reading the articles took me from my ordinary life as an average high school girl to taking a peek at the world beyond my small southern city. I also learned, I learned things that mom did not have time to teach me. How to do my hair, what perfume smelt great, or how to put on make up. My mom, bless her heart was a single parent working 12 hour shifts. I only saw her on her way in from work or on her way out to go to work. Seventeen was my teacher. As I got older I started to gravitate to Essence and Elle, Glamour and InStyle. You can find the many copies scattered throughout my apartment as well as Success, Black Enterprise, and Entrepreneur. As I matured my taste in reading matured, but what never changed is the desire to create my own magazine filled with inspiration, power, and guidance to young women.



As the real world came swarming in, I could no longer dream about magazines, editing, fashion, creating inspiring articles, or taking over the world one reader at a time. I had to be practical. Find a job that would support me, hence the medical field. I spent years doing what others wanted from me, I did not have the courage to even understand that I had a dream or calling;it was just something I thought about from time to time. As I set off to achieve a level of success I was burdened with heaviness of being the first in my family to graduate from college so I had to " make it," what ever that means. On my journey to" making it" I have stumbled, picked myself up, stumbled again, and now remain frustrated because I am plagued with the desire to create and inspire, I need to write.

Every post I write on SheMogul is a chip away at every excuse I made because of fear, or lack of self confidence. The more readers I gain the more momentum I gain. Soon SheMogul will not be just a blog that is glanced at from time to time. SheMogul as Candice says will be a movement, a brand.

As you set forth on your journey to living out your purpose there are three very key elements that you must keep at the forefront of your mind:
1. You can only live your life for yourself, living for others is the best recipe for unhappiness.
2. Fear is an evil nasty thing that can keep your from your purpose in life.
3. Excuses are what we use to waste time. Really what is an excuse, but just a way to justify why something did not get done. Remember that if there is a WILL the is a WAY!

This week I challenge you to say goodbye to excuses and just do it! Leave a comment and let me know what you think of SheMogul.....



Shameka

Monday Inspiration: The Beauty of Purging

Taken From: SheKnows.com

Recently I have been enjoying the show called The Amanda's. It's a show about a professional organizer, her employees and there organizing adventures. Before the team can really began to organize a space they take the client through a process called purging. During this process the client gets rid of anything and everything that they don't use, cant use or is no longer of importance to them. This is the only way a space can truly be organized. So this weekend I set out on my own purging adventure. I went through my bedroom with a trash bag in hand to get rid of the over following "stuff" that had taken over my room in the past two years. It amazed me how much " stuff " I had accumulated. The more I got ride of the more order and peace I felt. I started to wonder if the process of purging can be applied to different areas of my life.

This week I plan to challenge myself to get rid of habits that are of no benefit to me.

This week I'm leaving behind the bad habit of not eating breakfast.

What can you truely say that you need to leave behind....? Lets talk about it!


Shameka
<3 2012

What I learned from Whitney + 1

Sorry everyone I have been away. I have unfortunately been sick. Sore throat + congestion is not fun at all. I feel much better so now I'm ready to get back to work.





Taken from: Newnownext.com



While I was away I was rocked like everyone else by Whitney's passing. It took me a whole week to get over the shock. I am one of the mid 80's babies who was just coming to age when Whitney dropped off of the music sense. Although I can remember some of her iconic moments such as her in the Body Guard and her role in Waiting to Exhale, her music wasn't something that was played in my bedroom after school. I more know Whitney for the scandal that surrounded her life rather than the barriers she crossed or the path she blazed. This saddens me even more than her un-timely death. As fans and people who appreciated and gained from her talent we were more caught up in tearing her down than holding her accountable with our love.

From Whitney I have learned two things:

1. Celebrities are HUMAN not GOD: I would not say I learned this, I already knew this but it has been even more apparent as of late. This is a very important tidbit because we hold such people on a pedestal, when they falter we turn out backs. They were given a talent that is meant to inspire and encourage us.

2. The Choices we make shape our lives: Choices have the power to flip our lives inside out, keep us stuck, or lead us down the wrong path if we are careless. Even the smallest choices could have the potential to be devastating. I often wonder if Whitney had made some different choices in her life, where would she be today? Just a thought.

This got me thinking about Choices and how we make them. Should we buy that house, marry him, move to a new city, eat that last piece of cake, these are some choices that everyone is faced with at least once in their lives. Often times when choices are made they are not true to what we want or what is best for us, because they are made based on fear or, other thoughts, wishes, or feelings. For example: Fear is a common driving force to why we make the choices that we do, and often they are not right choice. Remember that opportunity comes from opposition.

When making choices ask yourself these questions:

1. Am I being true to myself?
It is important to make sure that you are being authentic, making a decision that you can live with and not based on anyone else. Making decision based on someone else could latter on cause resentment or anger.

2. Why are am I making this choice?
Really think about why are making the choice. Have you been influenced by other? Is it fear? Is it lack of education? Knowing why you are making the choice that you are could potentially help you see that you may or may not be making the right choice.

3. Finally is fear guiding your choice?
The presence of fear is the sign that you are on the verge of something great or a learning opportunity. Make a list of pros and con's . If your gains out weigh your loses you would be a fool not to move forward.


How do you make good choices? Leave a comment and share. I need 10 followers this month. Invite your friends to follow.


Shameka
<3 2012