Love List: 3 Ways to Make a Gorgeous Change!

Gor-geous

Beautiful; Very Attractive

Pleasant

 

 

Lately I have been looking for something different. I have been wanting to shake things up a little bit and be gorgeous while I'm at it. I am not going to lie the older I get the more difficult it seems to just go with the flow, to be confident in my choices, or to forget about what others think. Not anymore...

 

 

I'm ready to make a change and be gorgeous while I'm at it.  Here is the plan:

 

Smile: Along the way I lost my smile. I buried in order to survive ( at least I thought at the time, that's a whole other story, for another time). Well it's time to bring it back! I'm looking forward to seeing how it can brighten up my day....update to come!

 

 

Be Me with No Apologies: Sometimes I don't feel like talking, sometimes I don't have anything to say, sometimes I'm stubborn to a fault, often I get scared, I procrastinate, I give to much, I love to hard or not at all, I am a romantic heart, vanilla lattes are my kryptonite, I feel fierce and feminine when my hair is short and tapered, my favorite color is red on Monday and Saturday it's fuchsia, I wish I was as fierce as Olive Pope...and the list goes on!

 

Stand in my own beauty: Chinky eyes, pouty lips, full hips, kinks, coils, and curls, were all things that I once did not like about myself for one reason or another, but they all make me Gorgeous!

 

Pursue my Purpose + Passion: There is nothing like a girl living the life she was born to live. She's a bit more confident, assured, and happy.

How are you making a Gorgeous change? I want to hear from you!

Shameka

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

4 Ways to Stay Commited!

Hi Gorgeous!

I have been wondering how long each of us will be motivated to achieve those goals that we all  wrote down. As life gets back in full swing, the children are back in school, work is becoming more hectic and our plates are quickly filling  up with things to do what keeps us from throwing in the towel? The question is how do we stay focused on what we want to achieve this year?

 Here Are 4 Things To Try!



WEIGHT LOSS JARS

 

For those of you who are serious the weight loss jars are perfect for you. All you need are two nice glass jars that you can see through. Label one pounds to loose, and the other pounds lost. Fill with the number of marbles of the pounds that you want to loose. As you loose the weight transfer the marbles over to the other jar until their are no more marbles. This is a great way to see your hard work paying off.

STICKY NOTES

 Do not underestimate the power of a sticky note. Try these for the small goals that you want to fit in each day such as drinking more water, taking multivitamin, or working on your business plan for 30 minutes. You can even write motivational quotes on them to get you moving. Place them in places that you often go such as your bathroom mirror, or your car dashboard.

ACCOUNTABILITY BUDDIES

Accountability buddies are awesome. I can attest to the power of telling someone your goals and them being there to motivate you on those days when you have nothing left to give. For some reason just knowing someone understands how you feel, yet they also know where you are trying to go it just gives you that burst of energy to finish. Grab a friend, inform them of  your goal and what you need from them as an accountability buddy. Maybe you need them go give you some encouraging words when you are down, or may a kick in the butt when you are being stubborn. Make sure you choose people that you trust and who you love and respect.

PICTURES

 

 

Find a picture that accurately represents your goal and place it on the fridge on your desk or any other place that will help you keep your goal at the for front of your mind.

 

These are just a few simple things I thought you would appreciate, now share!

 

How are you staying motivated? Share your motivation tips with me. Instagram or tweet a pic of how you stay motivated or using the tips above. Don't forget to mention @shemogul in your post with hash tag #shemogullifestyle

 

Shameka

 



It's 2013: How Are You Committed To Doing The Work?

Wow, I have been so excited for the new year to begin. I am ready for a fresh start. Ready to do the work required to reach my goals big and small. I know all of you have made resolutions, made vision boards, written goals for the year etc. and have spent the first week of the new year shedding off all the of the things you want to leave behind in 2012. Well I am here to tell you resolutions, goals, and vision boards are all nice but as the good book say's faith with out works is dead. To get the life you want, to make the changes that you would like to see in the new year; you have to put in some sort of effort. Let me put it to you this way, the weight is not going to come off unless you make the effort to eat right and exercise. The book is not going to be written if you do not commit to sacrificing some of your Saturday mornings to working on it. I mean we can all look at our goal lists all we want but it takes actions to see results.

Here are three of of my biggest goals for the year!

1. Loose 102 lbs.

2. Make a comfortable life for myself in Houston

3. Get closer to God

Of course I have many more. I have not left one stone un-turned. I plan to live this blessing called life to the fullest, and to do that I must seek the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. That is my prayer for
2013.

 

So here is how I am taking action:

1. I am starting the Pink Method, a weight-loss program designed specifically for women, tomorrow. Look out for my YouTube video on the Pink Method, later this week.

2. I have a book list that will help me learn techniques and tips to make the changes that I seek to make. Right now I am finishing up Re-position Yourself: Living Your Life Without Limits, by T.D. Jakes. 

Here are some other books on my list for the year:

Success Principles by Jack Canfield

The Secret by Rhonda Byrne

Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-free Productivity by David Allen

Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical, and Financial Destiny! by Anthony Robbins

3. I will be joining @theluke-humble, where I will be connecting with God each Sunday and Wednesday nights, while also participating in the churches read the bible in a year campaign.

So with all of that being said, how are you doing the work? Tweet or instagram a picture of your doing the work to @shemogul with #shemoguldoingthework! I am excited to see what you are doing to make 2013 better than 2012 could ever be.

Ciao,

Shameka

 

Hey Santa Don't Forget About Me....

So Christmas is officially 13 days away. Wow time is flying by, and I know that everyone is out trying to find the right gifts for those who are special to us or even those who we would like to spread a little cheer to. It is very easy to splurge on others this time of year and forget about ourselves.  This year I say add yourself to the list. You have worked hard, and have undoubtedly sacrificed something this year for someone else. So instead of not even thinking of yourself, add your name on the list. Remember that gifting has to do with the thought and not the price. So, the gift for yourself could be something small like a new tube of lipstick or something your have been eyeing for months like that Michael Kors bag you have been telling yourself is to expensive.  If you can spend a couple of hundred bucks on presents for others you can do it for yourself . Remember you matter also.

Here is my list: Note I will not be getting all of these things but I will pick something from the list to pick up just for me.




    


As you can see I do not want much....

I have been debating rather or not I need an Ipad mini, will I really use it? Well I have come to the conclusion that it is a must. I find myself in bed wanting to watch movies on Netflix or search the net but hating to deal with my laptop. The Ipad mini is the perfect problem solver.

I have read some really good reviews on the 12 Tribes of Hattie, so I'm going to pick it up soon and spend a day engrossed in a the book. Plus it's an Oprah book club pick. Need I say more. This may be my Sunday plan of action. All is missing is a nice cup of  Tea with some Honey and Lemon.

I am in the process of expanding SheMogul, so this book is more of business research than a personal present. I have also read great reviews on Fashion 2.0 Blogging Your Way to the Front Row.

Lancôme's new fragrance La Vie Est Belle is amazing. Have you ever walked into a department store and smelt a fragrance and had to know what it was? Well La Vie Est Belle is it. Every time I smell it I fall in love all over again. It has a deep sweet scent, while being elegant and modern at the same time. It is definitely a scent that can be worn for many occasions, daily, date night, special occasion, and even as a signature scent. Love, Love, Love It,  must have it!

 M.A.C's Girl About Town. It is reviewed as the perfect pink lipstick for all women, even dark skin beauties. I want it for no other reason as to add it to my lipstick collection.

Finally the Rachael Roy Blue Suede pump. Ladies need I say more. They are Fab. A great shoe to wear to the office or for a girls night out.

Now my decision is which do I get....One of them or two of them? Oh yeah, my Birthday is 4 days after Christmas... so double gifts for me!!! I'm just saying.

I would love to know what's on your Christmas wish list!

Shameka

Wrapping up 2012: My Three Steps to Planning for an Extrodinare Year

While on the hunt for a Christmas Gift for an employee party gift exchange at Walgreen's ( don't ask Lol), I finally found a copy of the January 2013 Essence. Alicia's happy and free look got my attention, so as any other true Mag Addict, I picked up my very first issue of the new year.

Taken from the internet

Flipping through the mag filled with tips and tricks to prepare for the New Year,  I started to think about the New Year, and how excited I am to have a fresh start. To put 2012 in a box and store it away. Let me say that this year was not a bad year, however this year has been filled with many challenges that have rocked me to my core yet have created a stronger better me. For that I am grateful.

Like most people wrapping up the previous year and planning for a new year included watching the ball drop, then spewing out some half hearted resolutions that I already knew that I wasn't going to keep. Well not this year. This year I'm going to put a little more effort, and time into this thing.

My first step is to reflect on the year as whole. In the new year I want to take with me the things that were successful and leave those things behind that did not work. I want to recognize my success and identify what made them things possible.  I also want to document my failures and identify why they were unsuccessful and what I could do in the future to increase my success.

          It is not by muscle, speed, or physical dexterity that great things are achieved but by reflection, force of character and judgment

Marcus Tullius Cicero

After reflection I plan to take a hard look at where I currently stand and where I want to go. It would be foolish to just jump into the new year without really understanding where I am in this year.

In order to succeed your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure

Bill Cosby

 

Finally I want to set goals that are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Timely.

 

 

Learn from the past. set vivid detailed goals for the future, and live in the only moment of time over which you have control: NOW

Dennis Waitley

 

 

These are just my thoughts of for preparing for the new year. Look out for more ways I plan to prepare for 2013. I really want to know how you plan to prepare for the New Year. What are some tips and tricks that have worked for you to ensure that your year gets off to the right start?

 

 

Shameka



 



Love List: Top 5 Beauty Must Haves For November

November for me has been all about creating a beauty routine that works for me. I have found myself super busy this month getting to know my way around my new city and adapting to the heat here in Houston so the things that worked well for me in South Carolina need a bit of updating. For me my biggest concern is making sure my skin looks great. So I have really sworn off makeup ( foundation) unless it is totally necessary. This means when I go out I need to look naturally awesome. Here are the things I have fell in love with this month that have kept me gorgeous....

Dickinsons Witch Hazel Pore Perfecting Toner does a great job of keeping my face clean. I use it after I wash my face to remove any residue, after a workout to wipe away sweat or any time I want a quick cleanse. I brought my bottle from Walgreens for about $5 bucks.

Rose bud Salve, oh how I love thee. I never leave the house with out it. It is extremely moisturizing and gives the lips a nice rosy tint. Also great for layering under lip gloss or lipstick. I picked up this at Bath and Body Works for  about $5.00.





This cucumber and aloe mist is perfect for a pick me up after a long day, or hours of traveling. I like to spray it to give my skin a refresher if I am going from work to dinner or something special. I found this product at target for $1 buck.




NYX lipgloss in any shade is amazing. I have the Queen of Africa a really deep purple color and Natural Pink, which is exactly what the name claims it to be. These glosses are very moisturizing, they glide on the lips easily. The color is amazing. They are very pigmented. For those of you who love the true color of lipsticks and the softness of a gloss this gloss is for you. I found this product at my local beauty supply store for...wait for it....$1.99. Bam! I will be purchasing more colors and will definitely write about it.

Cetaphil Moisturizer is a life saver.  Although my skin is oily it is sensitive. I have to be careful that the products that I use on my skin do not irritate it or clog my pores which cause me to break out. Cetaphil moisturizes and protects without clogging or irritating my skin. I have been using this product for a while and do not see myself switching to anything else. If you are looking for something mild yet moisturizing this is it. I usually buy this product from target for $11.99.



I am finding that being naturally beautiful is far better than piling on tons of makeup. Now do not get me wrong I love make up. It allows me to switch up my look and enhance the beauty I already have, but when I wipe it all away I still want to be breathe taking....


What are your favorite beauty products for the month of November?

Shameka

Lessons Learned from RHOA

Taken from the Internet

I can't lie, nor am I ashamed at the fact that I have been a fan of the Real House Wives of Atlanta since the very first season. The show makes for some good t.v. ( in my Wendy Williams voice). As the show progresses, and cast members leave, and new cast members come their is one thing that I can say about those who remain, they really have used the opportunity to their advantage. Looking past the drama, the fights, and the attitudes I have learned some very valuable lessons from the ladies.

1. Just because you have money does not mean you have to make sure everyone knows...i.e. ball on a budget...lol. Thanks Kandi for the tip.

2. Take advantage of every opportunity. Use them the create something new. This is a very big theme on the show, many of the ladies have parlayed their success on the show to other ventures such as Pheadra's funeral home business...!? Need I say more.

3. It doesn't matter how good you look on the outside, if the inside is messed up it REALLY makes you an UGLY person ( Kenya is a prime example of that).

4. Friendships do fade and fall apart for various reasons. Sometimes you have to let people go to allow other things to come into your life. The ending of NeNe and Kims relationship brought great things into their lives.

5. Stay in your lane, be the best at what it is that you do. The ladies would not be half as successful if they were all trying to do the same things. Everybody can't be Beyonce, but you can be the best at what you do and who your are..


RHOA is some good T.V., but if you watch closely you can pick up some tips that could help you make some key changes in your life.

What do you think? Lets talk about it.


Shameka