The Best Part of Single

The last post talked about the blessings in being single but I think the best part is learning all about who you are as a woman. It is very important to make sure that you are at your best by developing self care routines, paying attention to becoming a healthy whole woman. I believe that a whole healthy woman passes those habits on to her family, in result building a strong healthy family.

For a woman learning to take care of oneself and making it priority while single will ultimately make it easier when the boo comes along, or the family is made. Women are natural nurturers and tend to give there all to others so being a little selfish when single is a good thing.

Here are some things to focus on while on the road to becoming happy, healthy, and whole:

1. Develop a simple health routine that includes healthy eating and regular exercise

2. Figure out ways to relieve and effectively reduce stress

3. Schedule in some you time to think about your goals or just do nothing.

4. Work to become emotionally healthy.

Shameka

K. Michelle: Silence is Loud

 That Silence is Loud.....

K. Michelle, the R&B singer from Memphis tells her best friend that the silence is loud when she goes home at night, referring to being single and going home to an empty house. When she uttered those words I thought to myself, wow...that silence is loud. 

There are times in your life when you crave silence and you want to be alone. Times when doing nothing is just as pleasing as doing something and people are always around eager to enjoy what ever life throws your way. One day that all changes. You wake up and life has fully kicked in. Your schedule if filled to the with things you have to do instead of things you really want to do. And those friends who are always around seemed to have vanished, and when the day is done and you walk into your house that silence is  so loud it practically drives you crazy when your single.

Being single I find that the older I get the more nerve wrecking it gets to be so. When I was 25, I always thought I had three more years to get married before I start to have babies. Now at 27 the clock is ticking and the silence is starting to get super loud.

Recently, I have realized that the silence is the pressure that I have been putting on myself. Pressure to live up to a standard, to please others, but most of all to check one more thing off of my list called life. I'm not going to lie one day I will get meet him and marry him, but until then I am committed to to enjoying the blessing of being single.

The blessings I've found in being single:

1.)  Time to truly get to know who you are and what you want

2.)   Ability to put your all in your career with out fear of destroying your relationship

3.)    Time to establish the woman you want to be so that you are prepared for the man that you want

4.)   A time to get clear on what you want and need from a relationship

5.)  Time to heal any past wounds, or hurts

I'm not going to lie being single is hard some times, but don't settle just because that silence is loud.

Shameka

All you single ladies out their weigh in and tell me what you do when that silence become unbearable? How do you handle being fine, fabulous, and single?

Deeper Waters

" Put out into deeper water, and let down the nets for a catch"

Luke 5:3

Jesus told Simon to cast his nets in deeper water in order to catch more fish. I have been contemplating this scripture for a few days as I try to make some very important changes in my life.

Cast your nets in deeper water to me means dig a little deeper, work a little harder, do something that you have never done. Instead of doing what you have always done do something different.

I have come to realize that some times we must leave behind the familiarity, and comfort of what we know and step out into the unknown to capture what we have always dreamed of. It wasn't easy for Simon to leave the shore and venture out into the deep to catch the fish, but he was filled with faith and his reward was more than he could ever dream of.

If your struggling with making something great happen in your life don't give up just cast your net in deeper waters. Look at it from a different angle, try a new strategy, leave behind the old and run with confidence in the directions of your dreams.

 Here are three ways to start casting  your nets in deeper water:

1. Get advice from a trusted friend. They can usually help you see things from a different angle.
2. Get a partner. Have you ever heard that two heads are better than one? Well that is usually true.
3. Start over. Throw away what is not working and add something new, do something you have never done, or try a new recipe.


 Do something that you have never done to get something that you never had.

Moguls, share! Tell me  how you have tried a new approach in love and life to achieve the impossible.


Shameka

Nail Buisness

There is something about a fresh manicure that makes me smile. I love to see my vibrant colored nails strike the keys on my key board. For some reason it makes me want to type. Like many women I was a addicted to acylic and gel nails. They instantly make your nails longer, stronger, and your polish lasts for weeks....thats great right! Yeah it is the first two times that you get them done. After than your nail bed begans to get soft and brittle from the filing; and you end up with nails to soft and sore to put anything on them. I hate it. So I have been doing my own nails. Just simple home manicures because I like to change the color up often. This week I'm going with Sally Hansens Xtreme Wear in Blue Me Away!!! The color is peacock blue, so tropical. Great for spring and summer.

Usually my home manicures only last two days tops. I know I suck at home manicures. But there are many different reasons.
1. I never use a base coat
2. I never wait for the first coat to dry completely to apply the second coat
3. I never add a top coat
4. I never reapply top coat every so often

I am really slack about my manicures.

After meeting with one of my accountablitiy buddies ( Tay ), and seeing how great her at home manicure was I decided to give it a real try.... I took some advice from Tay ( she told me about her secret weapon) and I ran to walmart to pick up some new colors and a special base coat.

She told me that her secret weapon ( which I'm sharing with you below) helps her maicure stay chipp free for a week.

PRO FX is a line of topcoats, and bases that are designed to help your manicures last longer. The bottle I purchased was the 3 in one complete manicure which is a top, base, and strenghtner all together.

I applied the top and bottom coats and the polish.....

Here are the results

I'll update you next week on how long the manicures last. I'm going to try my best not to change the colors....

Shameka

The beauty in not giving up + 1

At this present moment I am going through a season of major transitions. Everything that I thought was concrete and safe is no longer the case. In the next two months I have to find a new apartment, job,  and possible roommate. As I look through job postings and apartment ads I become extremely overwhelmed, and I just want to give up. Just go back home to mom where it is easy and comfortable. But then I pull myself up by the bootstraps and realize that I have come to far to turn around, I must remember that ...

"I'll gain the strength to fly during the process...."

It is during the journey that we learn the skills and gain the strength to fly. Giving and up and quiting is a habit that will keep you stuck. I have learned that being uncomfortable and scared is a sign that I am on the right track, that I am about to reach a break through, another level in my life.

"Be Ye Steadfast...... "

So Moguls as you encounter the difficult things in your life, be ye steadfast....don't give up because you never know the outcome. It could turn out better than you ever thought, you could fail and learn that the skills to be successful the next time.

"The worst thing you could do is be afraid to try..... "

I like apologize for being slack with my Wednesday and Friday posts the last few weeks. It seems as if I can never get a grip on life after Monday. I promise to make more of an effort to give you some quality stuff this week. Look out for my beauty/ healthy post on Wednesday and my Relationship/ Fashion post on Friday.

I appreciate all of you who take the time to read SheMogul weekly......



Shameka

Should I? Or Shouldn't I?

So this past weekend I have been struggling with should I or shouldn't I. Committing to a decision or going with my first thought or feeling was tough. I was supper scared of the consequences. I am the type of person who wants things to go right, I don't want to fail, I can't stand rejection, and I hate to redo something so when it comes to certain things I have to already know what is going to happen for me to committed. Luckily I have learned this about myself. I am not a risk taker. I like to play things safe. For the majority of my life I thought this was great. The older I get the more I see this as a hindrance.

Playing it safe keeps me from taking risks that could become something great or ability to just have fun, learn or grow. Well this weekend I finally got to see what taking risks could get me, and it got me something that I  really wanted. So here is the skinny...so I know this guy, lets call him Mr. Incredible. Well I have known Mr. Incredible for a while and I have always thought of him as a cool guy. He's the mysterious, cool, calm type. The one you can never guess what he's thinking. Well I really wanted to hang out with him but I was so scared to ask him for fear of rejection. I had spent the entire weekend thinking about if I should or if I shouldn't. Since I have been working on not giving up when things get tough I decided this is one of those times that I should not give up so I text him and asked him out for ice cream.  I waited....and waited....sweating and nervous. The five minutes I waited seem like an eternity. When he responded with a polite yes I almost jumped out of my seat.  Ice cream with Mr. Incredible turned into a movie with Mr. Incredible, by the end of the night I was all smiles.

Although I got to spend time with Mr. Incredible I also learned that I should more than I shouldn't. That some times it's better to take the risk because things could turn out better than you could ever imagine, and if it doesn't you waste less time thinking about if you should or if  you shouldn't.


Just do it.....


Shameka

Why Not Let it Fall Apart

“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next.
Delicious Ambiguity.” 

Gilda Radner

Some times things don't go exactly as we plan, things happen. It's the little thing we call life, but every once in a while nothing goes exactly as we plan. Eveything we knew to be true is no longer, comfort is gone and we are left scratching and scrapping to catch ourselves from falling. Just when we thing nothing else could happen, it does and we fall.

 

WE  FALL!!!!

 

Jobs lost. love lost, relationships damaged, people leave our lives, finances dwindle, health becomes an issues....and the list goes on! The question is...WHAT DO WE DO?

LET IT HAPPEN.

Some times we are so busy trying to keep everything together we don't see the blessings in letting it fall apart. Here are some reasons to let it fall apart. Instead of trying deperately to hold on to something that's not working anymore let it go to open yourself up for something greater. Think of all the things that could happen if your were to just fall....

1. You will become stronger

2. You will have room in your life for more

3. Get to learn something new about yourself or life

4. Gives you an oppurtunity to rebuild something greater

Soo, are you going to hold the broken pieces together or are you going to rebuild something greater.....

Leave a comment and let me know how you fell and got back up greater than you were when you fell!

Shameka