Should I? Or Shouldn't I?

So this past weekend I have been struggling with should I or shouldn't I. Committing to a decision or going with my first thought or feeling was tough. I was supper scared of the consequences. I am the type of person who wants things to go right, I don't want to fail, I can't stand rejection, and I hate to redo something so when it comes to certain things I have to already know what is going to happen for me to committed. Luckily I have learned this about myself. I am not a risk taker. I like to play things safe. For the majority of my life I thought this was great. The older I get the more I see this as a hindrance.

Playing it safe keeps me from taking risks that could become something great or ability to just have fun, learn or grow. Well this weekend I finally got to see what taking risks could get me, and it got me something that I  really wanted. So here is the skinny...so I know this guy, lets call him Mr. Incredible. Well I have known Mr. Incredible for a while and I have always thought of him as a cool guy. He's the mysterious, cool, calm type. The one you can never guess what he's thinking. Well I really wanted to hang out with him but I was so scared to ask him for fear of rejection. I had spent the entire weekend thinking about if I should or if I shouldn't. Since I have been working on not giving up when things get tough I decided this is one of those times that I should not give up so I text him and asked him out for ice cream.  I waited....and waited....sweating and nervous. The five minutes I waited seem like an eternity. When he responded with a polite yes I almost jumped out of my seat.  Ice cream with Mr. Incredible turned into a movie with Mr. Incredible, by the end of the night I was all smiles.

Although I got to spend time with Mr. Incredible I also learned that I should more than I shouldn't. That some times it's better to take the risk because things could turn out better than you could ever imagine, and if it doesn't you waste less time thinking about if you should or if  you shouldn't.


Just do it.....


Shameka

Why Not Let it Fall Apart

“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next.
Delicious Ambiguity.” 

Gilda Radner

Some times things don't go exactly as we plan, things happen. It's the little thing we call life, but every once in a while nothing goes exactly as we plan. Eveything we knew to be true is no longer, comfort is gone and we are left scratching and scrapping to catch ourselves from falling. Just when we thing nothing else could happen, it does and we fall.

 

WE  FALL!!!!

 

Jobs lost. love lost, relationships damaged, people leave our lives, finances dwindle, health becomes an issues....and the list goes on! The question is...WHAT DO WE DO?

LET IT HAPPEN.

Some times we are so busy trying to keep everything together we don't see the blessings in letting it fall apart. Here are some reasons to let it fall apart. Instead of trying deperately to hold on to something that's not working anymore let it go to open yourself up for something greater. Think of all the things that could happen if your were to just fall....

1. You will become stronger

2. You will have room in your life for more

3. Get to learn something new about yourself or life

4. Gives you an oppurtunity to rebuild something greater

Soo, are you going to hold the broken pieces together or are you going to rebuild something greater.....

Leave a comment and let me know how you fell and got back up greater than you were when you fell!

Shameka

Making Healthy a Way of Life

So I know this guy...lets call him Mr. X. Have you ever met a person who just looks healthy? Not particularly muscular like Vin Diesel or the Rock but healthy? Well that's Mr. X. The thing about Mr. X. is I knew him before he went on his health kick. He wasn't overweight or anything, but he was just like most of us, a slave to fried, sweet, and salty. Now when I see Mr. X. he looks like he just completed a 3 mile run. Mr. X. inspires me. So I have asked Mr. X. to help me on my weight loss journey.

After having many discussions with Mr. X. Something he told me one day is stuck in my head. He said " I'm addicted," I was like " Huh? What do you mean your addicted?" Then he said this ," It's how I live." He said it so nonchalantly.

ADDICTED TO EXERCISE + EATING RIGHT

It was at that point that I realized why my previous efforts for weight loss were unsuccessful....I wasn't mentally committed. So this time around I'm doing it on my own; no trainer, no program, no magic formula, just me, prayer and God!!!

Here is my plan.....

1. I'm breaking my weight loss goal into smaller chucks, 10 pounds at a time.

2. Changing the focus of my goal. Instead of my goal being weight loss it will be to be make being healthy a priority with the perk of weight loss

3. I'm adding a challenge: to run for 30 minutes 4x a week, drink 8 glasses of water a day, and get all my food groups in everyday.....

4. Reward myself consistently for the good I do: my first reward will be a cute pair of running shoes

5. Check in with my accountability buddy ( Mr. X.) once or twice a week. Maybe we will get together and go for a run...


Ladies I have come to realize that being healthy is a choice that we make every moment of everyday. It is something that we must personally master and it's not easy. Being healthy should be a lifestyle not a goal, that's the only way to be successful....


How are you reaching your fitness goals? Are you taking it as serious as you should? Share.

Why Not Be Confident + How

Not feeling confident

"Believe in yourself and there will come a day when others will have no choice but to believe with you.”

Cynthia Kersey

Self Confidence is a tricky thing. It is a reflection of what we think of ourselves. It can be seen in how we handle situations, relationships, predict success and hold us back from reaching our potential. Having self confidence is important in having a life worth living.

finding my confidence!!!!

self-con·fi·dence

realistic confidence in one's own judgment, ability, power, etc.

Before we get into self confidence I want to clear this up, people often assume that people who are loud and out their are confident,  that people who always have something to say and are the center of attention are the picture of confidence. This may be true. However to all you introverts out there this does not mean that you are not confident. It just means that your personality caters to intimate settings and calm and soft environments. This does not mean that you are not confident.

Having confidence hinges on one's belief in one's self., that is projected on to other things in our lives. Think about the story you tell yourself before you do something very important? Is it a positive story or a negative story? For example if you see your boy friend/ girl friend smiling at another person, do you tell yourself that something may be going with them, and that you are not good enough for some reason? Or do you think, hum he/she is cute, maybe they know each other from some time ago, and then ask him or her about it? If you picked the first option odds are your self confidence needs work....

“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” 

Norman Vincent Peale

Here's how to work toward having more self confidence...

1. Change your thoughts!

 instead of thinking negative about everything, switch on the positive. Believe that you can do anything and you can!

2. Accept what you can't change and change the things you can't!

why dwell on things that you can't change or you don't have ? It will only make you crazy. Each day work on things that you can change to make you better, and be grateful for the things that you have today.

3. Compete and Compare yourself to yourself not to others!

Instead of focusing what others are doing, focus on you! How can I be better?

 

found that Confident woman inside.....

Are you confident? If not acknowledge it and work on it.....

Shameka

Fit Book +1

So I have this goal to loose 50 pounds for a number of reasons. Have you ever gained so much weight that you just feel uncomfortable. Uncomfortble in your own skin? Well thats how I feel at this moment. So I need to make a change. I have been making excuses for years about why I can't loose the weight. My number one excuse is that I'll always be over weight. Can we say self sabotage. Well I have finally called myself out. I know that if I dont get control now then in a few years I could be opening myself up for illness that I prefer to prevent such as diabetes. Plus, I have a lot to accomplish on this earth and I cant do it if I am not at my best.

With that in mind.....while I was in target I came across this:

It's a FITBOOK...it allows me to track my progress, list goals, record my nutrition and water intake. It is amazing. If you want to say accountable for your fitness goals than FITBOOK is for you. There is power in writing things down. You can pick FITBOOK up at your local TARGET or from AMAZON. Prices range ( depending on where you purchase) between $20.00 & $25.00!

I can't wait to track my fitness goals in my FIT BOOK! Getting started on my first 10 pounds!!!!!! I'll keep you updated!

Purty Persimmon by Wet & Wild

I fell in love with it as soon as I swiped the matte orange on my lips!!!!

What do you think?

$1.99@ CVS

I love this orange, perfect for a day out and about!!! The color is bright, bold and daring. It makes other take a second look in a GOOD way. Take a step outside of your comfort zone and find a daring color to rock this spring/summer. I have a couple that I will be making signatures.

Hey ladies I need your help, if you have ever been on a weightloss journey give me some advice. What worked? What didn't? I'm determined to shed the pounds! 

Why Not Be Who You Want to Be

“...be yourself- not your idea of what you think somebody else's idea of yourself should be"
Henry David Thoreau

As a child I talked like a child, thought, like a child and did as a child. When I became a woman I think I left all of that behind...or did I? As children life is layed out in front of us in a strategic plan. Our parents told us what time to wake up, eat, sleep, how to dress, what to say, what not to say, what decisions to make, which one not to make, and the list goes on.... As we get older parents are suppose to back away and let us grow into ourselves figure things out and become who we are ment to be in this world. Well some time it just doesnt go as planned, either we get so use to being told what to do and how we are unable to think for ourselves and spend our lives looking for validation from everyone else.
Or, we become molded into others expectations of ourselves, and spend our lives fighting who we are as opposed to who we should be.

“Never complain, never explain. Resist the temptation to defend yourself or make excuses.”  Brian Tracy

So you are not competely there yet, thats fine, neither am I. The most important piece of this puzzle is realizing it. It's really sad if others can see that you are living below your potential and you can't. Once you know then you can plan your next steps. Think about it. Are you a Mogul who just wants to be a mom, or a mom who needs to be a Mogul, or you someone who lives for fashion but your wardrobe tells a totally different story. Are you a lawyer who would rather save the rain forest. Who are you? What are you? How do you describe yourself?

“A girl should be two things: who and what she wants.” Coco Chanel

We only get one chance at this thing called life. It would be really sad to spend it living in a box that others have put us in. I choose to be Shameka:

compassionate, ambitous, beautiful inside and out, vulnerable yet strong, a seeker of balance, a soon to be size 12, cool yet chic, writer, blogger, publisher, Entreprenuer on the cover of Forbes, world wide traveler, life changer, ME!!!!!! Thats all I want to be!

Share!!!!  Who are you?????

Olivia Pope: Style to Watch +1

I'm hooked on ABC's new show scandal. A drama created by Shonda Grimes the woman behind Grey's Anatomy, I should have known it was going to be good. It harnesses the power to pull me the depths of reality television.

Taken from the Internet

Olivia Pope, played by the fabulous Kerry Washington is in the crisis management business, and former right hand to the pres. Her style is simple, luxurious, with a hint of femine power. As the show goes on I can't wait to see what happens with her style.

Have you caught Scandal? What do you think of the new ABC hit?

• TO  DO SUMMER 2012....FALL IN LOVE

As things in my life change and I develop and grow. I realize that there is one area of my life that I want to work on, and that's my relationships, in hopes to find Love. I hate to say it but I have been singe for a very long time and I think it is about time to get back on the scene. So ladies here is my pitch:

I'm looking for a friendship that has the potiential to grow and develop into Greatness!!! Men only Please....

So my questions to you... if you are boo'ed up, how did you meet him? If you single and mingling do you have any advice?