Why Not Be Confident + How

Not feeling confident

"Believe in yourself and there will come a day when others will have no choice but to believe with you.”

Cynthia Kersey

Self Confidence is a tricky thing. It is a reflection of what we think of ourselves. It can be seen in how we handle situations, relationships, predict success and hold us back from reaching our potential. Having self confidence is important in having a life worth living.

finding my confidence!!!!

self-con·fi·dence

realistic confidence in one's own judgment, ability, power, etc.

Before we get into self confidence I want to clear this up, people often assume that people who are loud and out their are confident,  that people who always have something to say and are the center of attention are the picture of confidence. This may be true. However to all you introverts out there this does not mean that you are not confident. It just means that your personality caters to intimate settings and calm and soft environments. This does not mean that you are not confident.

Having confidence hinges on one's belief in one's self., that is projected on to other things in our lives. Think about the story you tell yourself before you do something very important? Is it a positive story or a negative story? For example if you see your boy friend/ girl friend smiling at another person, do you tell yourself that something may be going with them, and that you are not good enough for some reason? Or do you think, hum he/she is cute, maybe they know each other from some time ago, and then ask him or her about it? If you picked the first option odds are your self confidence needs work....

“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” 

Norman Vincent Peale

Here's how to work toward having more self confidence...

1. Change your thoughts!

 instead of thinking negative about everything, switch on the positive. Believe that you can do anything and you can!

2. Accept what you can't change and change the things you can't!

why dwell on things that you can't change or you don't have ? It will only make you crazy. Each day work on things that you can change to make you better, and be grateful for the things that you have today.

3. Compete and Compare yourself to yourself not to others!

Instead of focusing what others are doing, focus on you! How can I be better?

 

found that Confident woman inside.....

Are you confident? If not acknowledge it and work on it.....

Shameka