Why Not Seek Clarity +1...

Do Not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with Good.

Romans 12:21

Hello Gorgeous,

Recently I have been hearing that what you consistently focus on is drawn to you. I have read the Secret and all that jazz and understand the law of attraction, but for me the secret was to complex of an idea to apply to my life everyday. I would have to visualize, feel, and act. It  just seemed a little far fetched, or maybe I just had so much that I wanted to attract into my life that it became over whelming.  Well, one Sunday while catching segments of  Super Soul Sunday I caught a segment of Oprah talking to Russell Simmons about meditation. Russell discussed how meditation has increased his the clarity and focus. He told Oprah that he made it a habit to meditate and do yoga each day. No matter what happened in his busy entrepreneurial life he shut every thing down each day to seek clarity and focus through meditation. During these times he say's that he can clearly see possibilities, opportunities, solutions, and new ventures.

Have You Ever Stopped and Searched for Peace, Clarity, or Calm?

Days get busy, hectic, chaotic. Decisions need to be made, plans implemented, deadlines meet. Babies need to be feed, school work done, significant others cared for, and friends encouraged  Each day our brains are going miles a minute. Thousands of choices are made instantly and yet you wonder where you are going to that last ounce of oomph to burn the midnight oil to see your dreams come true. It lies in the quiet moments you give your brain to sift through the chatter and help you identify those pressing things that will lead to your to your purpose. 

Make it a Habit

In stead of choosing to be consumed by stress, confusion, frustration, busyness, pain, anger or any other negative emotion choose to focus on what you want. Be consumed instead by Good.

1. Find your own personal way to seek good...pray, write, unplug, read inspirational text, meditate   or listen to your favorite song. I find it helpful to do a a little of each.

2. Schedule your clarity time, set your alarm and dig in. Start with 5-10 minutes, increase the time as you become more comfortable with your new habit.

3. Let nothing come in between you and your need to be consumed by good.

Here is a great how-to video by Gabrielle Bernstein on mediation. 

Try being consumed by good today, comment and let me know how it works for you! Share with a friend, follow, or just comeback back for another good read. Let me know if this was helpful to you!

Love,

Shameka

Dear July, I want to Thrive

Hello Gorgoeus,

We have made it past the first six months of the year. I must say that I started off the year excited about the possibilities, I wrote my goals and dedicated myself to achieving them. Yet, here I am almost seven months later asking myself what happened to the time, better yet what happened to my goals.

Thinking back to the beginning of the year I must say that disciplined has escaped me. Instead of focusing on the things I want I focused on the things I did not want such as lack and scarcity. I spent the first half of the year afraid I would not have enough, that I wasn't good enough, that I did not have enough experience, I wasn't pretty enough, or thin enough....enough, enough, enough.  I have been a little obsessed to say the least.

I'm tired of not being enough! Yes I said it! So what now?


Instead of focusing on all the things that are wrong, I plan to focus on all the things that are right, and work on the things that I want to change.
 My goal is to thrive:
My Objective for July are:

1. I want to put more time into my business
2. Connect with people in my industry
3. Create a Thrive Session
4. Relax
5. Give More
6. Be more of me
7. Start my journey to financial freedom/ and wealth building

Shameka

Cheers to the Weekend: Weekend Inspiration

 
Long weekends are my favorites they are the times when I get to indulge in the things that I truly love, and if I am super lucky I get to spend it with people I truly love. Summer weekends seem to be the most exciting, they hold an tingle of adventurous excitement. You never know what stories you will be able to tell come Monday morning.I plan to take full advantage of my early mornings and late night this weekend by pampering my body and relaxing my mind. Here are a few things I plan to do this weekend....

1.

 

Indulge in an endless blue manicure

For the perfect blue try Sinful colors in Endless Blue $2.00 at Walmart

 

2.

 

Find the perfect bouquet of pink ponies

Any suggestions??

 

3.

 

Devour the stack of magazine piled on my desk, in my bed and who knows where else.

I'm inspired by the July Essence Cover, mark your calenders for the movie Think Like A Man 2 in movies June 20th

 

4.

 

Light my Tokyo Petals Candle and catch up on YouTube Videos

Tokyo Petals from Bath & Body works on sale, a nice soft floral scent

5.

 

Write a friend a note

I am loving my Hello note cards found at Target for $1.00

Leave a comment  or snap a pic and share your tips and tricks for a great weekend, how you plan to recharge, or if you spot the perfect bouquet of pink ponies...use hash tag #SheMogul for your pics!!!

With Love,
Shameka

Cheers to the Summer: 10 WAYS TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF SUMMER!

If a June night could talk, it would probably boast it invented romance.

Bern Williams

Summer is on our heels, and to be honest I am not fond of the heat. I am more of a fall kinda girl. Yet, there is still much to be said about sweltering summer days, and feel good summer nights. I have spent the last couple of summers wishing it away. Not this summer. I plan to savor the cool nights, out door events, weekend getaways, and seasonal treats. Here are some simple ways I plan to make the days count. Summer just seems so simple.

1. Relax with late afternoon walks at the park.

2.Use the long days for early morning thrive sessions ( work+ prayer/ mediation+ reading) and  late dinners with friends.

3. Avoid the heat by enjoying lazy afternoons with a great read.

4. Summer is the best time to eat clean, take advantage by whipping up your favorite salad.

5. Give your feet a break; and show them off with a cute pair of sandals and an amazing pedicure.

6. For summer big hair; don't care is always the rule of thumb.

7. Pressed Coffee??? Why? I'm not sure, try it anyway.

8. Weekend Getaways alone; getting way with friends is always nice, but there is something about taking a solo vacation that recharges you in a way like no other.

9. Summer is the perfect time to let your skin breathe, opt out of wearing heavy foundation. Choose a fresh face instead.

10. Beach Days with friends, the family, babies, or alone; spending time at the beach is what summer is about. Don't let the summer pass you by without enjoying an afternoon or two watching the waves.
What are some things that you enjoy about summer? What makes summer so great? Leave a comment, I'm always looking for some great things to try.

Hello Summer; its nice to see you again,

Shameka

WHY NOT BRING IN THE NEW YEAR WITH A PLAN....?

Hello Gorgeous,

I am so excited for the New Year. 2014, I'm ready. Are you?
I wanted to take full advantage of the new year so I spent the last two weeks of 2013, and the first week of the new year creating a vision for my life and fleshing out my goals. One thing I learned from my MBA classes is that every successful business has a vision and a daily mission that guides them toward that vision.

For the past three years I made the standard vision board. I glued pictures of things that I wanted to accomplish with in the year, and I placed the board somewhere I would see it each day. I saw some results, yet I realized that I just expected everything to just to happen. I wanted things to fall into my lap. I wanted to conquer my new city, yet I stayed in my comfort zone , I wanted to become a runner yet I never ran. I wanted to fall in love yet I never gave anyone a chance to get close to me. Those things never happened. As I reflected on the past year I realized that those things that I put the effort into actually happened. I spent months looking for an apartment, and moved into my perfect place last summer. I wanted to change my style so I cut my tightly coiled hair into a Mohawk and I loved it. I wanted to visit my family three times within the year. I made it twice. I know there is something to this vision board thing so this year I did a  little bit more. I created a 3 to 5 year vision, broke my visions down into goals, and used my calendar to insert the goals into 3 month periods. I want 2014 to be a year of change.

Here's how I did it...

1.) Reflection: I thought about what worked and what did not work last year. I realized that I did not want to make random goals each year, and a new vision board. I decided that I wanted to work toward something.

2.) Clarified My Vision: I thought about the life I wanted in 3 to 5 years. The woman I wanted to be, the career I wanted to have, my relationships, finances, relationship with  GOD, and the things I wanted to experience. This time I really composed a vision board filled with broad reaching goals.

3.) Broke My Vision Into Goals: I took my big vision and broke them down into categories ( spiritual, beauty, fitness, finance, career, etc.). I placed goals in each category that would help me get to my vision.

4.). I gave myself a deadline: The first 90 days of 2014 to accomplish those goals, after the first 90 days I'll reflect and write new ones to get me through the 2nd quarter of the year.

5.) Scheduled: Each day/week I scheduled in time to work on my goals

6.) Tracked: Brought a calendar to visually track my progress....


Create a Vision, design goals and go for it...

Love,
Sham

Why Not: Sow Good Seeds....+ 1

The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.

2 Corinthians 9:6

 

 

Hello Gorgeous,

 

It feels so good to write again. I have been working so hard for the last couple of months; focused on school,  a new job, and figuring out life in a new city. I finally feel like life is calming down and I can share some wisdom  that I have picked up along the way.

 

A few months ago one of my very close friends shared with me a lesson he was learning in his life about planting seeds...

 

One gives freely, yet grows all the richer; another withholds what he should give, and only suffers want. Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered.

proverbs 11:24-25

 

Most of my life I have thought of reaping what I sow only when I give off negativity. If you give negativity you will get negativity. As I got older I began to see the concept in a new light. If I give positivity I should receive the same thing. This concept of  reaping what I sow was  taken further for me with a little wisdom from my friend I'll call him Dr. Wisdom. He gave me this thought:

 

" Be careful where you plant your seeds, plant them where they will grow"

 

After months of rolling this thought in my mind I finally have been able to receive what he was telling me. I should be intentional about my actions, they should lead to my goals. Not only should I plant good seeds I need to plant good seeds in fertile ground. I need to plant seed that will grow and reap an abundant harvest. I have begun to investigate my life and  have realized that my actions or my seeds are invested in ..sleeping, working, and watching television. Now what does that reap ladies....a mediocre life. My goal is to have an extraordinary life therefore I need to plant extraordinary seeds.

 

 

Here's the plan!

 

1. Spend focused time working on my goals

2. Become the master of my time.

3. Let go of the things that are time wasters.

What types of seeds are you planting? Let's work together to plant the seeds that will grow your dreams.

 

 

 

 

What do you think about joining a book club?

I want to start a book club that will bring women together to discuss titles that inspire, empower, and encourage life long learning. What do you think? Would you join? What are good titles to start with?



 

 

 

Ciao Bella,

 

Shameka

 



 



 

Inspired: A Couple of Forevers

 

 

 

I stopped writing, I was not sure if posting on SheMogul was something that was leading me to my purpose. I also did not know if I really enjoyed it anymore. While searching the web looking for some style inspiration for a new hair cut I ran across an article Curly Nikki wrote about Chrisette Michelle's recent weight loss, new hair cut, and why she became a vegan. After reading that article I stocked Chrisette Michelle on Google reading anything and everything about her life change and new upcoming album. I was inspired. She made me want something different. I wanted to strive for something better for myself. It inspired me to write again, to share again, and it reminded me of the reason I started SheMogul. My goal is to inspire you all to dream bigger and take the steps to make those dreams a reality.

 

I am excited to be writing and creating pieces that inspire and inform you. I am also excited to challenge myself into creating a better experience for you here on SheMogul.

 

 

If you have not already, check out Chrisette Michelle's A Couple of Forever's!. I am in love with this song. It makes me believe in love again.

 

 

Tell me what you think of A Couple of Forever's new track?